Rituals Can Make Us Feel Good
Susan M. Kleiner, PhD, RD, FACN, CNS, FISSN
Family dinners, tea ceremonies, sharing a bottle of wine, religious ceremonies, family game night, or curling up with a good book... All of these are rituals in our lives. Imagine life without them; a life without patterns, without the ability to know what's coming, or what to look forward to.
Rituals decrease stress and anxiety. When you have a plan, or you know what to look forward to, you don't have to worry about what is going to happen, what is expected of you, or whom you will be sharing your time with.
The Japanese Tea Ceremony is a great example. In an article published in 1996 in the Holistic Nurse Practitioner Journal, Keenan wrote, "When people attend a Japanese Tea Ceremony, they often remark that it had a calming effect on them." The effect comes from ritualizing everyday chores and giving them an aesthetic dimension. Rather than focusing on the mundane acts, you concentrate solely on the present moment, shutting out worries about the past and anxieties about the future.
Research has shown that adolescents raised in families with frequent family dinners and celebrations have better mental health, better relationships, and fewer high-risk behaviors. According to the researchers, "Family rituals such as regular mealtimes may ease the stress of daily living in the fast-paced families of today's society."
If you look, you'll find lots of rituals built into The Good Mood Diet. The most obvious is the pattern that you follow as your Good Mood Template every day. Your hot cocoa in the evening is a very important end-of-day ritual to look forward to as you ease into rest and relaxation, and finally sleep.
If you are a tea drinker, your afternoon tea can also become a ritual that you look forward to. I have a cupboard full of different teas that I enjoy depending on my mood in the afternoon. I have loose teas for when I'm home, and I have bags for when I'm out and about. I find it especially important to carry tea with me when I travel, bringing a little bit of home and comfort with me while I'm on the road.
Alcohol plays a big ritualistic role in our society. It is part of religious ceremonies and celebrations of any size. We associate it with relaxation. It acts as an ice-breaker at a gathering, giving party-goers something to talk about and to do with their hands.
Alcohol (more than 2 drinks per week) is on the Feel Bad Foods list. Because of the important ritual surrounding alcohol, I would never remove alcohol from The Good Mood Diet without giving you another ritual as an alternative. If you enjoy the ritual of alcohol more often than twice a week, we have created a great alternative for you. While you won't have the alcohol, it may actually be the ritual of it all that you really enjoy.
In the recipe section of the book you'll find several "smoothie" recipes that are actually wonderful juice drinks. Call them "mocktails" if you must, but we have created them to create a whole new Good Mood ritual. You can still use the fancy glassware, and get all dressed up, but instead of drinking a Cosmopolitan, drink a Good Mood Metropolitan. The Mango Mambo and Blackberry Bliss were big hits at our last Good Mood Diet Club party.
So create some new rituals that feel good to you. Even better, create some new Good Mood Juice Drink recipes and send them in to us to share online. Have a party. Get your club together and get those creative juices flowing!